Nobody gives you a handbook for pleasure—but we’ve got the next best thing. From material myths to charging confusion, here’s what we wish someone had told us before our first big vibe buy. Whether you're just starting your collection or still window-shopping with curiosity, this one's for you.
1. Not All Toys Are Created Equal (Especially When It Comes to Materials)
Silicone? ABS plastic? Jelly rubber? 🤔 Here's the deal: not all materials are body-safe, and some can actually trap bacteria over time (ew). We always recommend body-safe silicone—it’s non-porous, easy to clean, and super gentle on sensitive skin. If it’s jelly or smells weird out of the box… maybe don’t put it near your bits.
Pro tip: If the packaging doesn’t tell you what it’s made of—walk away.
2. “Beginner-Friendly” Doesn’t Mean Boring
You don’t have to start with a teeny-tiny bullet vibe unless you want to. In fact, some of the most beginner-loved toys are dual stimulators or suction toys because they get the job done without needing any special skills or positions. The key is knowing your preferences—external, internal, or both?
Not sure where to start? That’s why we created our Discovery Boxes 😉
3. Charging Anxiety is Real—But Avoiding Batteries is Worth It
Raise your hand if you’ve ever bought a toy, ripped open the package… and realized it needs weird watch batteries that no one owns. 🙋♀️
Rechargeable toys are not only more eco-friendly, but they’re way more powerful and cost-effective in the long run. Just make sure to fully charge before your first go—and yes, most toys will blink at you when they’re ready.
4. Lubricant is Not Optional
Even if you're feeling ✨all the feels✨, lube is a total game changer—especially with toys. It reduces friction, makes sensations more intense, and helps prevent irritation. But here's the golden rule: water-based lube for silicone toys. Always.
Avoid: Silicone lube with silicone toys—it can break them down over time.
5. Your Orgasm Isn’t the Only Goal
Sure, the finish line is great—but don’t forget the journey. Sometimes, toys are better for exploring what you like, getting into your body, or just adding a little playfulness to your solo time. If it buzzes and makes you giggle, that’s still a win. ✨
Permission granted to take your time, try things out, and not expect fireworks every time.
Wrap-Up: You’re Doing Great.
There’s no “right way” to explore pleasure, but the more you know, the better your experience will be. And hey—making a few mistakes along the way just means you’re learning what works for you.
Ready to try your first (or next) toy? Take the guesswork out of it with one of our curated Discovery Boxes. We’ll match the mood—you just open the box. 💖
